“I’m tired,” + “I don’t feel well” = fatigue

Last week I saw this twitter update and it really got me thinking. How often do I say “I’m tired?” Truth be told, TOO MUCH! I use “I’m too tired” when I am resisting something I need to do, especially when that something is creative. I also use it when the thing I need to do seems too big or daunting.

Does what we say to ourselves really play a role in or health and how we feel? Most of us believe that what we say to others matter, right? We can empower or bring others down by our words and our tonality. Wouldn’t that also stand true with the words we say internally to ourselves? How about if we say the same words or phrases over and over again? We know telling a child she is dumb conditions a child to grow up not believing in herself. How about the words you say to yourself? Do you have a spell you put on yourself everyday that helps determine how you feel? Most of us do. How do we break the spell? And is it as easy as just not saying it?

Maybe it would be naive to say that if we just stop saying we feel bad or that we are tired it will go away. At the same time, I am wondering if there was ever a time you were physically exhausted and engaged 100% in doing something you just loved? In those moments did you feel tired? Or did the time just fly by?

What does all this mean? What I have found that my MINDSET-whatever I am focusing on + LANGUAGE I use + how I use my BODY = HOW I FEEL.

I would love to share with you a strategy I use to move past “I’m too tired.”

Think of a specific time you use ”I’m too tired.” What are the patterns or triggers that have “I’m too tired” come up?
Notice what are you resisting when you feel tired.
Ask: How do you want to feel right now? What is my outcome? Why is this important to me?
What do I need to focus on right now to feel this way?
What do I need to say to myself right now?
How do I need to stand? move? breath? and use my body right now to feel this way?
What action can I take right now to move me closer to what I want?

Bonus: What would happen if you just took “I’m too tired” out of your vocabulary? Challenge: Take it out for the next week and watch to see the change!

Please leave a comment or a question. I would love to hear from you.

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Interruptions from the living room | MOM! I need you!

Working from home is a blessing. I am grateful that in-between coaching calls I get to emerge from my office and steal kisses from my kids. I get to be here when they get home from school, hear about my children’s day and connect with them for 10 minutes before they go out to play. I have also found that as much as it is a blessing I have had to learn to manage the interruptions. At times the interruptions are a welcomed break but other times…. lets just say they can get me off track especially when I am working on something creative or even better a task I have been resisting doing anyway.

My Mom cares for my children when I am working and I find that I still get pulled off task when the kids are crying, demanding something or when they don’t like the response they are getting from Grandma. Here are a few of my strategies and mindsets I use to deal with the interruptions.

Schedule breaks where you can connect with kids and give them your full attention. This helps me stay focused on business when I should be working and my children when I am with them. Watch for my video Overcoming Mommy Guilt to be posted real soon.
Set clear ground rules for your work time with your children. If my office door is closed it is a clear sign that kids do not enter! I am often working on the phone with coaching clients that deserve my full attention and my kids now understand that I am off limits during this time unless there is an emergency. When I am working without childcare my office door is open and they know office visits are allowed.
Create a work mindset (more on this later.) I focus on the outcome I am working on, trust that my children are being cared for and that my Mom can handle all the upsets.
Admission- Loud screaming and crying really get to me. During these times I take a deep breath and ask myself “Do I really need to solve this? Do they really need me right now?” More often than not the answer to these questions is a big fat NO. My children are just fine, it will all blow over in a few minutes and I do not welcome this interruption to get me upset or off task. Next, I need to make a decision, do I leave my office or stay on task?
Sometimes I make the choice to leave the office to find out the problem. In the past I would engage with my kids angry for the interruption. My new habit is to first remember that I am choosing to get involved, center myself and enter the upset with my kids from a calm place. I know when I do this the interruption is significantly shorter and we come to a solution and a hug much quicker.
When I am ready to get back on task I always start with “what is my outcome right now?” Asking a question always grants me an answer. This allows to get back on track and engaged in what I am working on.
Last I remind myself daily that I GET to work from home. It is indeed a blessing and the truth is I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Please share your comments below. What are some of your tips for handling interruptions from your family while working from home?

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The Millionaire Messenger | Brendon Buchard

Recently I read the founder of Experts Academy, Brendon Bruchard’s book.

The Millionaire Messenger: Make a Difference and a Fortune Sharing Your Advice

The book is a must read for anyone wanting to sell their information, coaching or advice. It is full of great information and more than anything it is inspiring to anyone looking to get started selling advice online. The book is about 150 pages and I read it in it’s entirety in one sitting. I devoured it and didn’t want to put it down.

The 3 biggest learnings I took away from this book:

Mindset! Mindset is the number one element to everything we do. This book as another great example on how our Mindset can make us or break us in our businesses. Brendon shares 5 key Mindsets he believes are an absolute must in becoming a Millionaire sharing your advice.
Millionaire Messenger Money Map! I loved this! He makes it very clear on how you can create a road map to selling your advice and outlines the six profit pillars for entrepreneurial experts.
Me Too! I think the biggest thing I took away from this book was an I can do this! belief. Everyone of us has something of value to share and if we authentically go out in the world and add value we can earn an income from it. This got my butt moving to create an online presence and start this blog.

Get the book, invest your time in reading it, you will be glad you did.

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Does the chatter ever just stop?

A great new yoga studio just opened up here in my small town. I am beyond thrilled to start doing yoga again. This morning I woke up ready to start my new practice and a sense of joy overwhelms me as I go out to my car to a sun shinning day, beautiful flowers starting to bloom and feeling good that I am about to do something for me. Sounds like a good start right?

Well… I get to the class Hot Vinyasa, find my space, take a few deep breaths and quickly realize that is is not quite like Bikram yoga. I start looking around and notice that everyone else is wearing yoga pants while I am dressed in shorts which is what people typically do in Bikram-this is my first downfall and start of my chatter. The downfall wasn’t in what I was wearing but the “what will people think?” question or “what was I thinking?” or even better ” I look stupid!” And so my dance begins…. My real workout today was noticing my inner chatter that wasn’t very complimentary to myself, turning the chatter off and then hearing it again, make the chatter nicer and then turn it off. This went on for over an hour! It went something like this I look awful, BREATH- no one cares what I look like. RELAX into the pose, my tummy looks huge. Ok, this stretch is starting to feel good. How come every nail on my hands are different lengths? When is the last time I bothered to get a manicure? Oh and my Toes! Disgusting! BREATH I love my body. I am taking care of me. How come this side is so tight? Who knew my calve were so stuff? what am a doing wrong? BREATH This feels good. This is the start of a better relationship with my body. I am pretty good at this. BREATH. Then I start in with my business. Whats stopping me from moving forward? What am I afraid of? Who is going to read my blog? BREATH And so the hour passes with my inner chatter stretching into silence and bending back into chatter.

I know better right? Yes I do, but I still do it. I am not sure we ever really turn it off. I do know that I can be better about the things I say to myself. I also know that when I am tuned into my inner voice I am happier, I live more fully, love freely, and thrive in whatever I am doing. Like yoga, conditioning the inner voice is a practice. When I notice the inner voice that doesnt serve me I STOP. I change my focus, ask a better question, and replace the thought with a better one. I know this sounds so simple. And it is. But does it work? YES! The hard part isn’t doing it. The hard part is committing to the practice of intentionally listening to your inner voice and choosing to have that voice cheer you on instead of creating doubt, loneliness, separation, fear…..

Here I am committing to the practice of listening intentionally and intentionally choosing my voice.

Today I choose to notice my voice, and thank myself for not getting stuck in the yucky conversations. Today I choose to BREATH through it. RELAX. Today I choose to say something nice to myself. Today I choose JOY and when I forget that I choose joy while my son is whining I take a deep breath and ask, how I want to feel right now in this moment?

What do you do to stop the chatter and direct your inner voice? Please share in the comments.

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Meet Jayne | My Story

Hello, I’m Jayne Jewell and I am a lifestyle design expert and coach. I empower women to love their life, create synergy between home and career all the while growing their small businesses to new highs.

At 12 years old I participated in my first personal development program with entrepreneur and peak performance coach Tony Robbins. During his NLP certification I lead my first coaching session and I was hooked! I knew I was meant to empower people to breakthrough their obstacles and take action towards their goals and dreams. I have traveled the world as a trainer and coach for Robbin’s Research International for the past 15 years working with thousands of people to set meaningful goals, move through the obstacles and get results.

The real story that lead me to work with women was after the birth of my first child. After all I knew, all the work I did with clients, all the work I had done on myself… I was lost. Somewhere along the way of becoming a mother I lost sight of me as a woman, my femininity, what I wanted to contribute to the world, who was I as a Mom? A Wife? And more importantly where did I go? In order to reclaim the strengths of who I was I needed to firstdesign the life I was meant to live.

I am grateful that my life is about coaching women to design a life they love that includes filling themselves up, sharing those gifts in a meaningful way with their loved ones and profiting from a business or career that lights them up. I will empower you to design a life you choose, give you the tools and strategies to move you towards your goals, and live a mindset that has you truly live, love and thrive.

Welcome to my online home, here you can read through blog articles, sign up for my free e-course, and participate in 52 weeks of living, loving and thriving.

I am available for coaching, interviews, guest writing and speaking. Please send email to Jayne@jaynejewell.com.